“Nice Guys”

This may not seem like a big deal to all of you in the blogosphere but, I personally can’t stand when I see “Nice Guy” status updates or tweets. I’m sure you’ve seen them…you haven’t!? allow me to show you some examples.

“In the movies, the good guy gets the girl. In real life, it’s usually the prick”

“I’m a great catch, why can’t I find a girlfriend?” 

“All the girls I talk to keep asking “where have all the good guys gone?”. I’m in the FRIEND ZONE, where you left me.”

So guys pull this b!tcha$$ sh!t for a couple of reasons. Hopes that a particular crush ‘likes or responds’ to the status update, alerting any and all females that he’s single and is a “genuine” good guy, Thinks the girls who respond “want the D”. Guys most likely have some kind of ulterior motive OR they truly believe in the stuff they’re saying. Which in my book, is the worst.

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The problem with the nice guy mentality is that they think every guy who isn’t them is a “jerk”. They seem to blame there inability to get into a relationship on everybody BUT themselves, What “nice guys” fail to realize is that maybe they’re not getting any love because they’re insecure, passive aggressive, whiny, clingy, submissive, and boring. Nice guys constantly blame their failures on women having bad taste in men, and fail to even think for a moment that maybe they’re issue is that they have HORRIBLE taste in women and are bad at gauging whether or not a women is interested. Now I’m not telling you to go out in the world and act like a dickhead to women. Just grow a pair, stop being thirsty, and have the confidence to be yourself. and if your saying “it’s not that easy” well NO DUH! what in life is? 

now listen to this Player Hater Anthem from the ultimate “nice guy” Drake…

Blink-182’s “First Date”

You know, this is probably my favorite Blink-182 song.

Yesterday, I had a chance to spend some time with my family.  And then….it happened.  THE INEVITABLE QUESTIONS.

  • ARE YOU MARRIED? (no)
  • ARE YOU SINGLE? (yes)
  • ARE YOU DATING? (sure, why not?)
  • DO YOU WANT TO TALK TO MY DAUGHTER/NIECE/FAMILY FRIEND/DISTANT RELATIVE FROM MARS? (wha…what!?)

It was then that I got to thinking….how would that first date go?  If I did decide to go through with it, that is.  Which I didn’t.  I mean, I’m still a hopeless romantic and I wish that I could just fall in love with someone and live happily ever after.  Still, I’m 30.  Not gettin’ any younger.

My first real brush with arranged marriages came when I was 25 or 26.  I was hanging out in Oceanside with an old acquaintance of mine, and he wanted me to meet a few friends of his.  Then it turned into something like a marriage meeting, because they wanted to find a husband for one of their relatives in the Philippines.  Yikes.

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That same day, another friend of mine called me up, asking me to straight up marry her cousin so she could get a visa.

Sheesh, maybe I’m the weird one and this is how dating goes nowadays.

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What if she turns out to be crazy?  What if I actually like that kinda shit?

-twitchy

Love Is …

Since the first anime I will watch is Love Hina, I thought it would be fitting to post a little “food for thought” about love. A song popped up on my Songza today called “Trouble” by Ray LaMontaigne, which my stream of consciousness brought me to a commercial that I remember watching and always found touching.

It is a Travellers Insurance commercial about a large white, terrier dog (who by the way, reminds me of my own dog) and his precious bone. Such a sweet story about things/people we hold dear and the lengths we take to keep those things/people we love safe. I hope you find it as heartwarming as I do.

Love is just one of those gifts that we are fortunate to have in this world. Love for family. Love for friends. Love for anime. Love for music. I can go on and on. I normally do not use the word love in such a general sense, but I feel comfortable using it in this context. I can only hope to protect, cherish, and appreciate those that I love as much as the dog in the commercial does. If I can succeed in that, I know I will live a very rich life.

Creepity Creep Creep

Howdy patnahs, I’m Ericka. Mr Twitchy decided to turn my everyday disasters into a new column. I get this a lot “What happened this time, lil sis?”–YES. I’m the “Normal Geek Girl” though I don’t feel worthy of the honor of that title. I’ve evolved from an outwardly looking geek to an inner geek, and oh, I can prove it.

How Embarrassing.

Raised the typical Asian way, GET STRAIGHT A’s or consider your life OVER.

It was always assumed my path set before me was to be a programmer. And oh, did I avoid it when I got older. Went in Biomedical Engineering, then Computer Science–wanted to punch my professors in the face, then finally moving on to the medical field. AND GUESS WHAT I’M DOING NOW?! Yep, Web Programming, Web Design, and iOS App developer. NOT what I went to school for. Can’t fight fate. DAMN. AND OF COURSE, writing for this lovely blog.

I want to learn how to do everything. Especially things that only “boys” are supposed to do, I have some inferiority complex and feel like I want to know that I CAN do it too. Seriously. Case and point: I wanted to learn how to fix a car, bought an s14 w/ manual trans, learned how to drift. Done and Done.

I need to know when people are talking crap about me, and I can do so in Tagalog, Spanish, Japanese, and Korean. Keep me away from MMO RPGs because I will disappear from life for a VERY long time. Same with Korean Dramas. SIDETRACKED.

Let me tell you this–I LOVE NERDY, GEEKY, INTELLIGENT guys. You know, the ones who read because they WANT to, have their own hobbies…such as anime, video games, can tell you about the most random of random things yet catch your interest because how enthusiastic they are about it…anyway. They make the BEST boyfriends.

BUT..they need to learn a few tricks of the trade. Well, you’re in luck. Use my horrible stories and experiences as a learning tool. For now I will bring you up before I bring you down in the next posts. As suggested, “HOW NOT TO ACT CREEPY”..well, here’s some good qualities for you.

CONFIDENT: It may not be in the same sense as other guys, but damn, they are confident when they are talking about something that interests them. Just give up. Come on, I don’t care what kind of socially awkward penguin you are but you must agree with me here. They don’t care what people think of them–or shouldn’t anyway…

LOYAL: As dedicated as they are to not missing out on that raids/instances, they can be just as dedicated to their ladies. Though, there needs to be a balance here when it comes to the two–I’ll get into that later.

FUNNY: 99.9% of the time these guys will always get you to laugh and have a good time…even get you out of your OWN comfort zone. Always good.

GENTLEMEN: These guys don’t know how to be playboys. You’ll appreciate this later.

I’ll stop here…but now that I’ve made you feel better about yourselves, in the next post I’ll tell you HOW to use these traits in your FAVOR and scrap the CREEPY, stereotypical behaviors. Oh goodness what am I getting myself into.

Girlfriends and Football

                                                                                                 RG3 has some anime fans…

Football season is here!!!, which means it’s time for me to get religious on Sundays. Let me go ahead and drop some knowledge on you ladies out on the blogosphere…Let me be VERY clear: Root against your mans team and consider us done. We’ll call you in the off-season.

To me, there is no bigger slap in the face than when a woman purposely roots against a man’s team. I’m perfectly fine with a woman having a team of her own, if she’s rooted for the team her whole life. But if she’s the type of woman who never really paid attention to my three favorite sports (football, basketball, and baseball), and never had a team, then she needs to be on my side.

Now, I have heard some women say it’s fun to root against their man’s team because if his team is losing they think it’s sexy when he gets all angry.

It isn’t.

Let’s say I’m watching a movie with my woman about a man in love with two women, one named Jung Soo-yeon, the other named Stephanie Mi Young Hwang, and my woman is pulling for Jung Soo-yeon, wouldn’t I be an asshole if I was rooting for Stephanie? Even if I thought Stephanie was WAAAAAAY better, out of respect for my lady, I would still root for Jung because I’m no dummy.

Consider this your warning, ladies: Men want our women to root for the team we’re rooting for. Period. And if you don’t, it’s over…At least until the off-season.

500 Days of Summer = Guy Movie

I will try to right this blog without any spoilers (though the movie is like two years old but anyway). Judging by the trailer and the premise of the movie it seems like a total girl movie no? How wrong you are sir/madam. This movie is one of the rare few movies where it shows a love story from a guy’s point of view. Not of some billionaire playboy, action hero , super hero etc etc. It is about a regular guy who falls in love with a girl and the ups and downs of dating and falling in love. You might be wondering why is a guy blogging about such a thing. It is because this is the movie i have related the most in my life EVER. I am not a movie buff but I have can quote a vast number of movies and love movies and this one stands above them all.

Guys/Girls can relate to this movie on either Tom (main character) and summer (main girl character) and be able to defend both people and their actions. That is what makes this movie great, it opens up that dialogue of asking “why do guys/girls think that way” and “HOLY shit i can relate to that”. As i stated i fall in the in the i can relate to that. I do not shy away from that fact, hell I am going through everything he is right now.

If there is one quote from the movie that i fully believe in it is…”You know what sucks? Realizing that everything you believe in is complete and utter bullshit”. That is how i feel right now about dating/relationships/girls and what not. Sometimes you gotta say fuck it, walk away and just move on and forget. Easier said then fucking done.

Jared