aka DAN Adoption Documentary pt. 3

In part 3 of the akaDAN series, Dan meets his biological family! Have you ever been really nervous, excited, scared all in one moment? Well, imagine those feelings and magnify them by a million. Journey with Dan Matthews as he describes first contact with his Korean family and his reaction to it all. Also learn a little about the International Korean Adoptee Association (IKAA), hear from Korean adoptees, and take a look at his brother’s cool apartment!

More Dan when the next part releases. We hope you enjoy us bringing you this exciting series! Please let us know how you feel. Feel free to tweet at me with your thoughts and feelings @999HP!
SSB articles for Part 1 & 2 | Part 3 | Part 4 | Part 5 | Part 6 & 7 | Part 8

Special thanks to Dan Matthews. Learn more about Dan on his website (here)
Series produced by Mayrok Media in association with Arirang TV
Videos linked from the ISAtv YouTube channel
Cover photo is snapshot from YouTube video.

aka DAN Adoption Documentary pt. 1 & 2

We continue to define and re-define our identity. One of my good friends Dan Matthews stars in a series documenting his journey to find his biological Korean family. Dan is a Korean-American adoptee and ever since I’ve known him, he’s tried to reconnect with his Korean heritage. He’s brought so many people together through his community work and performing solo and with his band, afterschoolspecial.


I want to share his series to outline that continuous self-discovery is important. Very seldom do we see such material from Asian-Americans and Dan continues to create music and projects for our generation. In the spirit of identity, I hope it inspires you to connect with what you love and what defines you. Whether it’s the arts, hobbies or passions, we all have something that keeps us motivated to be our best and help us fully express ourselves.

In episode 1, Dan makes a surprising discovery and prepares for his trip to attend the International Korean Adoptee Association (IKAA) conference in Korea. From here, take note that every journey begins differently and sometimes, you’ll be pleasantly surprised at what you find.

Episode 1:

Episode 2:

More of this series when episode 3 releases. Look for more updates from us about the series and more about self-discovery to pursue what it is you love. I know we blog about geeky things but I also feel that If you’re not geeking out about something, you’re not living.
SSB articles for Part 1 & 2 | Part 3 | Part 4 | Part 5 | Part 6 & 7 | Part 8

Special thanks to Dan Matthews. Learn more about Dan on his website (here)
Series produced by Mayrok Media in association with Arirang TV
Videos linked from the ISAtv YouTube channel
Cover photo is snapshot from YouTube video.

“Nice Guys”

This may not seem like a big deal to all of you in the blogosphere but, I personally can’t stand when I see “Nice Guy” status updates or tweets. I’m sure you’ve seen them…you haven’t!? allow me to show you some examples.

“In the movies, the good guy gets the girl. In real life, it’s usually the prick”

“I’m a great catch, why can’t I find a girlfriend?” 

“All the girls I talk to keep asking “where have all the good guys gone?”. I’m in the FRIEND ZONE, where you left me.”

So guys pull this b!tcha$$ sh!t for a couple of reasons. Hopes that a particular crush ‘likes or responds’ to the status update, alerting any and all females that he’s single and is a “genuine” good guy, Thinks the girls who respond “want the D”. Guys most likely have some kind of ulterior motive OR they truly believe in the stuff they’re saying. Which in my book, is the worst.

4OVPAcomic from Alligator Sunglasses (link here)

The problem with the nice guy mentality is that they think every guy who isn’t them is a “jerk”. They seem to blame there inability to get into a relationship on everybody BUT themselves, What “nice guys” fail to realize is that maybe they’re not getting any love because they’re insecure, passive aggressive, whiny, clingy, submissive, and boring. Nice guys constantly blame their failures on women having bad taste in men, and fail to even think for a moment that maybe they’re issue is that they have HORRIBLE taste in women and are bad at gauging whether or not a women is interested. Now I’m not telling you to go out in the world and act like a dickhead to women. Just grow a pair, stop being thirsty, and have the confidence to be yourself. and if your saying “it’s not that easy” well NO DUH! what in life is? 

now listen to this Player Hater Anthem from the ultimate “nice guy” Drake…

New Years Eve Survival Guide.

t’s New Years Eve and you don’t know what’s in store. Tonight can either be one of the greatest nights of your life OR a huge disappointment. Don’t worry dude! I got your back. Just follow these steps and you just might make it home safely…maybe with a few fat b!*ches too. JK

1. Dress Appropriately
Yeah, lets go ahead and throw all that Ecko Red in the trash. Tonight, let’s try and stay away from the baggy stuff. Think sleek and well tailored…form fitting if you will. Try not to overdress, you don’t want to look like a pretentious douche do you?

2. Carry Cash and set a limit
We all can’t be T Pain…we can’t buy everyone drinks, and I’ve seen plenty of friends rack up a bill because they opened a tab with a credit card. Nothing worse than being stuck with a $600 bill that you can’t pay. Set a spending limit and carry cash. This way you can manage how much you drink and also manage who you’re buying drinks for, like that girl over there that you’ve been eyeing, the one with the huge mole on her forehead with hair growing out of it…you should probably rethink that.

3.Use your head!
Hopefully you’re not completely sh!t faced at this point. It’s almost time for the countdown and nobody likes to be alone for that midnight kiss. Remember to use that noggin of yours. Avoid any Exes, and try to find a nice chick, and by “nice” I mean, find someone who at least seems interested in you. Ever been shot down for a midnight kiss? yeah me neither.

4. Hydrate
Remember that the key to keeping your night going strong is NOT how many beers and cocktails you can drink but how much water you drink. 1 drink. 1 water. 1 drink. 1 water. This will also help with the hangover process tomorrow.


The Peach Complex.


Shigeru Miyamoto
, must have been in some kind of F’d up relationship with his girlfriend. He must have gotten his heart broken and decided to make a game based on his relationship to help men around the world relate and cope. Think about it! Princess Peach is the eternal cock-tease right? and we all know the drill: Peach gets knabbed by the forever horny Bowser and you, as Mario have to drop everything and claim countless lives just to get her ungrateful ass home. Peach makes absolutely no provisions to defend herself from her persistent captor, knowing all along that we’ll clean up all her shit. To make things worse she gets your awkward brother Luigi involved and now shes dragging your family in this shit. YOUR FAM BRO!

That’s rough. Try as you might to keep her safe, it’s never enough. It’s like shes constantly throwing  challenges your way to test manhood and heart. “yeah, you saved me last week but, what have you done for me lately?”

chicks…am I right?

Blink-182’s “First Date”

You know, this is probably my favorite Blink-182 song.

Yesterday, I had a chance to spend some time with my family.  And then….it happened.  THE INEVITABLE QUESTIONS.

  • ARE YOU SINGLE? (yes)
  • ARE YOU DATING? (sure, why not?)

It was then that I got to thinking….how would that first date go?  If I did decide to go through with it, that is.  Which I didn’t.  I mean, I’m still a hopeless romantic and I wish that I could just fall in love with someone and live happily ever after.  Still, I’m 30.  Not gettin’ any younger.

My first real brush with arranged marriages came when I was 25 or 26.  I was hanging out in Oceanside with an old acquaintance of mine, and he wanted me to meet a few friends of his.  Then it turned into something like a marriage meeting, because they wanted to find a husband for one of their relatives in the Philippines.  Yikes.


That same day, another friend of mine called me up, asking me to straight up marry her cousin so she could get a visa.

Sheesh, maybe I’m the weird one and this is how dating goes nowadays.


What if she turns out to be crazy?  What if I actually like that kinda shit?


Editorial : Supreme Court rules DOMA unconstitutional, and gay dinosaur porn.

The following editorial is solely the opinion of the CEO of SSB, and does not reflect the opinions of SSB.  Got a problem?  Too bad.

On the 26th of June, the Supreme Court of the US decided in a 5-4 ruling that the Defense of Marriage Act was unconstitutional.  This proved to be a landmark victory for LBGT rights

DOMA, signed by President Bill Clinton in 1996, prevented same-sex couples whose marriages were recognized by their home state from receiving the hundreds of benefits available to other married couples under federal law. The Huffington Post

Now, I’m a practicing Catholic, and even I support LBGT rights. I’ve never thought that the two should be exclusive to one another.   Shit, I think Jesus had one commandment that we should all try to live by, and that was “Love one another, as I have loved you.” (Translation, “DON’T BE A CUNT.”)  Fair enough, JC.   I don’t think that any of us have the right to define just what love is.  Except Haddaway.

If two people of the same sex want to get married and enjoy the same rights as heterosexual couples, who are we to stop ’em?  Who does it hurt?  Really?  Just because gay people are gettin’ married and stuff doesn’t mean that you’re automatically start craving cock (if you’re a male), or wanting to eat carpet (if you’re female).  Then again, with the way that some people are acting now, you’d think that somethin’ crawled up their respective assholes.  Let LBGT couples be.

Not long after the ruling was made, various Christian groups started letting their opinions be heard.  I found this picture on facebook.

Gay dinosaurs.

Gay dinosaurs.

There’s a sayin’ out there, and sadly, it’s been my M.O. when dealing with crazy Christians.

“Dear Lord, protect me from your followers.  Amen.”

Now, that picture just wasn’t gay enough, in my opinion.  So I commissioned my cousin Charlie to photoshop me something awesome.  And here it is.

even gayer dinosaurs

Better.  Much more fabulous.

So, in the end, I think that couples of any sexual orientation should be able to enjoy the same rights as heterosexual couples.  Love is all you need, no matter what sexual preference you have.

This entry is dedicated to all my LBGT friends and readers.  Guys, that rainbow is ever closer.  Keep reaching for it. Be fabulous.  Always.

Edit: June 26, 2015.  The Supreme Court ruled today in favor of Same Sex Marriage.  Already people are tweeting about moving to Canada, where’s it’s already legal.  I wonder if those people that said they’d set themselves on fire if Same Sex Marriage was legal…already did?

Elmo Fire