“Nice Guys”

This may not seem like a big deal to all of you in the blogosphere but, I personally can’t stand when I see “Nice Guy” status updates or tweets. I’m sure you’ve seen them…you haven’t!? allow me to show you some examples.

“In the movies, the good guy gets the girl. In real life, it’s usually the prick”

“I’m a great catch, why can’t I find a girlfriend?” 

“All the girls I talk to keep asking “where have all the good guys gone?”. I’m in the FRIEND ZONE, where you left me.”

So guys pull this b!tcha$$ sh!t for a couple of reasons. Hopes that a particular crush ‘likes or responds’ to the status update, alerting any and all females that he’s single and is a “genuine” good guy, Thinks the girls who respond “want the D”. Guys most likely have some kind of ulterior motive OR they truly believe in the stuff they’re saying. Which in my book, is the worst.

4OVPAcomic from Alligator Sunglasses (link here)

The problem with the nice guy mentality is that they think every guy who isn’t them is a “jerk”. They seem to blame there inability to get into a relationship on everybody BUT themselves, What “nice guys” fail to realize is that maybe they’re not getting any love because they’re insecure, passive aggressive, whiny, clingy, submissive, and boring. Nice guys constantly blame their failures on women having bad taste in men, and fail to even think for a moment that maybe they’re issue is that they have HORRIBLE taste in women and are bad at gauging whether or not a women is interested. Now I’m not telling you to go out in the world and act like a dickhead to women. Just grow a pair, stop being thirsty, and have the confidence to be yourself. and if your saying “it’s not that easy” well NO DUH! what in life is? 

now listen to this Player Hater Anthem from the ultimate “nice guy” Drake…

New Years Eve Survival Guide.

t’s New Years Eve and you don’t know what’s in store. Tonight can either be one of the greatest nights of your life OR a huge disappointment. Don’t worry dude! I got your back. Just follow these steps and you just might make it home safely…maybe with a few fat b!*ches too. JK

1. Dress Appropriately
Yeah, lets go ahead and throw all that Ecko Red in the trash. Tonight, let’s try and stay away from the baggy stuff. Think sleek and well tailored…form fitting if you will. Try not to overdress, you don’t want to look like a pretentious douche do you?

2. Carry Cash and set a limit
We all can’t be T Pain…we can’t buy everyone drinks, and I’ve seen plenty of friends rack up a bill because they opened a tab with a credit card. Nothing worse than being stuck with a $600 bill that you can’t pay. Set a spending limit and carry cash. This way you can manage how much you drink and also manage who you’re buying drinks for, like that girl over there that you’ve been eyeing, the one with the huge mole on her forehead with hair growing out of it…you should probably rethink that.

3.Use your head!
Hopefully you’re not completely sh!t faced at this point. It’s almost time for the countdown and nobody likes to be alone for that midnight kiss. Remember to use that noggin of yours. Avoid any Exes, and try to find a nice chick, and by “nice” I mean, find someone who at least seems interested in you. Ever been shot down for a midnight kiss? yeah me neither.

4. Hydrate
Remember that the key to keeping your night going strong is NOT how many beers and cocktails you can drink but how much water you drink. 1 drink. 1 water. 1 drink. 1 water. This will also help with the hangover process tomorrow.


The Peach Complex.


Shigeru Miyamoto
, must have been in some kind of F’d up relationship with his girlfriend. He must have gotten his heart broken and decided to make a game based on his relationship to help men around the world relate and cope. Think about it! Princess Peach is the eternal cock-tease right? and we all know the drill: Peach gets knabbed by the forever horny Bowser and you, as Mario have to drop everything and claim countless lives just to get her ungrateful ass home. Peach makes absolutely no provisions to defend herself from her persistent captor, knowing all along that we’ll clean up all her shit. To make things worse she gets your awkward brother Luigi involved and now shes dragging your family in this shit. YOUR FAM BRO!

That’s rough. Try as you might to keep her safe, it’s never enough. It’s like shes constantly throwing  challenges your way to test manhood and heart. “yeah, you saved me last week but, what have you done for me lately?”

chicks…am I right?

Blink-182’s “First Date”

You know, this is probably my favorite Blink-182 song.

Yesterday, I had a chance to spend some time with my family.  And then….it happened.  THE INEVITABLE QUESTIONS.

  • ARE YOU SINGLE? (yes)
  • ARE YOU DATING? (sure, why not?)

It was then that I got to thinking….how would that first date go?  If I did decide to go through with it, that is.  Which I didn’t.  I mean, I’m still a hopeless romantic and I wish that I could just fall in love with someone and live happily ever after.  Still, I’m 30.  Not gettin’ any younger.

My first real brush with arranged marriages came when I was 25 or 26.  I was hanging out in Oceanside with an old acquaintance of mine, and he wanted me to meet a few friends of his.  Then it turned into something like a marriage meeting, because they wanted to find a husband for one of their relatives in the Philippines.  Yikes.


That same day, another friend of mine called me up, asking me to straight up marry her cousin so she could get a visa.

Sheesh, maybe I’m the weird one and this is how dating goes nowadays.


What if she turns out to be crazy?  What if I actually like that kinda shit?


SSB vs. Asian Cultural Festival 2013!

First off, a big shoutout to my team at Kkonnect.net.  Back in the game, baby!

Today was the Asian Cultural Festival, the brainchild of one very awesome Dennis-Michael Broussard.  And like so many of his events, this event was poppin’, creative, and eye-opening.  Don’t believe me?  A few of our team members all split up and covered the event in their own way, either by bringing in musical guests, taking pictures, or doing JoJo poses.

Take a look at these pictures below:


Twitchy and Supergirl. I’ve really gotta come up with a cooler nickname for her.


You’re a grand old flag…


*guile theme*

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And for those of you that can’t handle the silliness I bring, then I say to you, good day.

SSB vs. Nolbu!


I’ve been going to Convoy Street for a while now.  I’ve eaten at their restaurants, drank at their tea shops, knocked back a few brews at the bars, and for the most part, those places have one thing in common.  They seem to be more catered towards an Asian crowd.  Makes sense, as Convoy Street is San Diego’s version of Chinatown, or Little Seoul (it depends on where you are, I guess).  And the only way to survive on that street is to blend in.




Nolbu is a bar that flies in the face of those conventions.  Managed by Patrick Chan, Nolbu is a bar that, in his words, “reflects what growing up as an Asian-American was about.”  While you’ll find Korean food on the menu, their drink selection is not what you’d expect to find at a bar on Convoy Street.  They carry a lot of local craft beers.  Ballast Point IPA’s, Blue Moons, Arrogant Bastards, and many other craft beers are being served, and according to Patrick, they go well with their normally spicy Korean dishes.  I’m not one to argue that, since I’ve got a cat’s tongue.  Plus, my love for beer helps things.

I'm liking this.

I’m liking this.

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Earlier today, I had a chance to sit down and chat with Nolbu’s manager, Patrick.  However, things got busy and I had to order up a Soju Melon or two.  That wasn’t a complaint.


You know you’re facing some stiff competition, how do you stick yourself up against all the establishments already here on Convoy? – It’s got an Asian-American flavor, WE ARE SAN DIEGO, and we have the San Diego lifestyle down pat. We’re small, so we’re intimate, but large enough that we can offer something for everyone.   We are the one spot on Convoy that isn’t…Convoy.  We’re doing something that encapsulates San Diego, not Convoy.  
(Did I mention that they also sell craft beers?  This is important.  Write it down somewhere..  -twitch)

What has been your biggest hurdle since starting Nolbu?
Setting our standards high, and keeping the standards high.  As the originators of the Soju watermelon and the white gummy Soju, we know that we have to keep our standards high because, well, there will eventually be copiers.  We can never be satisfied, and we believe there always is room for improvement.

How did you come up with the Soju Melon?  And how do you make one?
Through traveling, we found that a lot of people already do this in Asia.  Summer’s coming, so we figured, why don’t we give this a try here?   We hollow out the watermelon, take the pulp out, and fill it up with Soju.  Any Soju will work.  We tend to use the more popular ones.

I really want to take one of these to go.

I really want to take one of these to go.

What is your favorite food here?
Definitely the bossam. (Pork underbelly with pickled vegetables.)

What are your hopes for Nolbu?
Our hope is for Nolbu to be the premier spot for Asian/Korean food and local craft beers.

What do you have to say to our readers?
Nolbu is a place where you can stimulate your palate and feed your soul.    If you’re looking for a chill bar, with good food and a chill atmosphere, then look no further!  We’d love to have you over.

So would I recommend this place?  You bet.  Not only is the décor awesome and inviting, it’s really fun to look at!  The food’s delish, and nothing is too overpowering.  Every one of their dishes is presented tastefully and appetizing.   The staff is really helpful and friendly.  My only gripe?  I’ve got a cat’s tongue, so eating some of the dishes require me to drink lots of liquid to keep my tongue cool.  The liquid may or may not have alcohol in it.

4633 Convoy Street #102, San Diego, CA.

this pork fell off the bone, son!

this pork fell off the bone, son!

Life As We Know It

As I sit outside on a bright, sunny San Diego Friday afternoon, I can’t help but appreciate life. From the sounds of people going on with their day to day business, to the hustle and bustle of cars going in and out of the parking lot. This morning while waiting for an oil change on my car, I sat in the lobby watching CNN discuss the manhunt on the second bomber of the Boston marathon. The conspiracy theorist in me of course went rampant. I couldn’t help but wonder, does the media have it correct? How do we know for sure that these are the guys that did it? Will we ever know the truth? We live in a world where truth is scarce. Even growing up, our parents shield us from many truths in order to protect us. And upon becoming an adult we all soon realize that the government also does the same in trying to protect the public. One truth that is evident is that we don’t always get the truth.

This morning at the dealership one of the workers came into the lobby just bubbly with happiness. He was getting coffee at this awesome Starbucks machine. I was amazed at this thing. Look at it!!!! I want one at my work!!!


Anyways, he smiled at me, and I reactively smiled back at him. That of course opened the door to him conversing with me, which I welcomed. He began to say how people think he is crazy for choosing to be so happy all the time. I reply with how I don’t think it’s crazy for him to choose to be happy and how more people should realize that happiness is a choice, not an uncontrolled emotion. We exchanged a few more statements and he went on to his daily work, as giddy as a child with Fun Dip at an amusement park. 😉

I finally got my car back with some new oil and a complimentary car wash, which is perfect for this amazingly beautifully sunny day. I mosey on over to the San Diego convention center for a real estate expo. It is my first time attending and I had no idea what to expect. So I walk in, get my badge, get my free bag, walk around the outer perimeter of the exhibit hall, then I went back to my car. Haha. Yes I know, I probably should have spent a little bit more time there but I honestly didn’t feel like schmoozing with people or being sold to. Y’all know how those things go. Maybe next year I’ll network better and get more free stuff at the booths. For some reason, I just wanted to be outside. Walking towards the convention center was so nice, even if I’m wearing black pants. I spend so much time indoors being reclusive that today I just wanted to be outdoors. I wanted to connect with the world. I wanted to breathe civilization. 😉

One other truth that is evident is that we all seek connections. We all seek to connect with someone or something. People even connect with inanimate objects! That’s how much people have a need to connect. No one wants to be isolated from the world, a lone human being, never belonging. Although sometimes we might want to disassociate ourselves from things and people that are not congruent to what we would like reflective of ourselves, we all have this innate desire to connect to something. These connections drive us, they motivate us, sometimes they can hurt us, but generally they mold us.

We are all connected to one another, no matter how close or distant the connection, it is still a connection nonetheless. Whoever planted bombs at the Boston marathon must accept responsibility, but as a society we must refrain from scapegoating and passing judgment on those responsible for such a horrendous act. The actions are reprehensible, but what worries me the most is the thought process of people to go through such an action. And what also worries me is the witch hunt that automatically ensues in order to point fingers and punish those whose hands are stained with blood. The media succeeds in creating panic and desperation without knowing all the facts. In their noble gestures to report the facts to their viewers, they sometimes relinquish integrity and compassion in order to satisfy the hungry appetites of those in society that have no other option but watch as future movie plots unfold.

Truth is scarce. Happiness is a choice. Connections are necessary. These are but a few of life’s lessons that we all eventually learn. It’s amazing to me that as I sit on this bench, people with various journeys in life pass me by, events around the world are stirred, and the world on this planet continues without any hiccup. We all need to sometimes just stop moving, stop thinking about ourselves, and just take a moment to be in awe of the world. We might find more truths, choose more happiness, and create better connections with one another. Maybe probably possibly perhaps ya never know? ;P


Anime Conji 2013 Review

Have you ever noticed the best moments of your life are with other people? How rare is it that the best moments of our lives are when we are alone. Sure, we have epiphanies that we remember in our lives, but when it comes to moments of celebration or of laughter or of happiness…I’m pretty sure those moments involved other people.

I had the great honor of staffing at Anime Conji this year. It was quite an experience. I witnessed a great number of people who share the same passion for anime, congregate for a weekend, and create connections with one another. Sure, the event had a few hiccups here and there, but at the end of the day the main goal was reached. The event was an arena for similar minds to meet, greet, enjoy each other’s company, and celebrate the joy that anime brings to each other’s lives.

I think in our society we tend to forget the importance of being part of a community. We are brought up to be independent and fend for ourselves because no one else will, but I think that is to our own detriment. While it is true that we should take care of ourselves, the trust that we try to contain within ourselves will only implode. I think we should all be part of a community of like-minded folks. I enjoyed being part of the Anime Conji community and listening to various people discuss all sorts of animes from different time periods. I had a blast with the Strawberry Scented Burnout family and I look forward to next year’s Anime Conji. Hopefully by then, I would know a little bit more about animes and the otaku culture. =P

Here are my favorite pictures from the weekend. Don’t you just love shared experiences? It makes the moment so much more fun and so much more real!!

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From the desk of the Anime Conji Volunteer Coordinator



It’s my second year as the Anime Conji Volunteer Department manager, and it’s been quite a ride.

To be honest, when I first joined Anime Conji back in December 2011, I had no idea what I was in for.  My first meeting with the conji management was an eye-opener, because I found out just how bad things were.  Their previous coordinator did almost nothing, and quit in a hurry, leaving me to build up an entire department from scratch.

I only had 3 months to get a pool of volunteers going, and get them organized enough to do work.  Up to that point, I had only been a volunteer lead with the San Diego Asian Film Festival, and even then most of my work was checking in/out volunteers, and dispatching them when needed.  I somehow met Gail I. at around that time, and I made her my co-coordinator.  The two of us recruited a pool of volunteers and we got ourselves ready for the con.

Conji 2012 did have a few hiccups on our side, as we found ourselves short a few times.  We survived however.  During the con, I discovered our dynamic, as Gail was good with keeping data organized, while I had a knack for talking to people and moving around.  The two of us worked in tandem to keep the staff properly equipped with volunteers.  Afterwards, I kept in contact with most of our volunteers, and a select few I decided to keep on as future staff members.

Conji 2013 was different.  With Gail kept busy with her job and school, I went to most of the staff meetings.  However, they did give me free reign to build my staff and crew, and I brought my fam over, as they had experience working with volunteers and staffing events through SDAFF.  I also brought over Alissa (duhlissafied), as I knew that she was organized, meticulous, thorough, and tough.  She single-handedly organized all of our volunteer schedules, printed them out on a neat set of spreadsheets that were easy-to-read and work with.  She made sure that I didn’t forget anything and kept me focused.  She did everything that was asked of her and then some.  And as for Conji 2013, I think the pictures speak for themselves.  And the massive amount of alcohol consumed.

To be honest, I don’t know where I’d be without Alissa and Gail.  Those girls are awesome.  I owe them more than I can ever count.

So, Alissa, Gail, thank you.  Thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you.  You two are the best partners a dummy like me could ever ask for.

And to the rest of my Dai-Conji Dan Squad, you guys are legit too.  <3

Now let’s see what the rest of the year has in store.  Anime Expo, anyone?

How to train like an MMA Fighter!

Coach Shannon is serious.

Coach Shannon is serious.

As many of you know, I’m currently training in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu under Coach Shannon Gugerty.  He’s got experience as a UFC fighter underneath his belt, and he’s got a wealth of knowledge.  I mean, he is my coach :P.

I’m still training with Coach Caine for my Muay Thai skillz.  He’s coo.

So after my Brazilian Jiu Jitsu session, I asked him if he could tell me what the average training schedule is like for an MMA fighter, and he agreed.  I learned that it’s involved, and yet, somewhat approachable.

Before we go any further, know that neither Coach Shannon or SSB take any responsibility for any injury or bodily harm you may come across if you try this regimen out.  Consult your doctor before doing any strenuous exercise.

Coach Shannon’s MMA training schedule:

*Note – They are broke up into two sessions, one in the morning, one in the evening, with a 6-8 hour rest in between.  This is critical.

Morning Session: Jiu-Jitsu Based grappling for MMA.
Evening Session: hour of padwork, Striking Practice, Bagwork.

Morning Session: Wrestling training, hopefully cage-based
Evening Session: Sparring (striking)

Coach Shannon hadoukens us.  Every day.

Coach Shannon Hadoukens us. Every day.

Morning Session: Jiu-Jitsu Based grappling for MMA. (more practical approach, lighter)
Circuit Training: Plyometrics, Kettle Bells, Sprints (No longer than Half and hour, full strength)
Evening Session: hour of padwork, Striking Practice, Bagwork. (Maybe take a period off, depends on how you feel)

Morning Session: Wrestling, Cage Wrestling
Evening Session: Brazilian Jiu Jitsu (with an emphasis on MMA tactics),

Morning Session: Hardcore Sparring 1-1.5 hours.
Evening Session: Sprint Workout, Roadwork. 0.5 hours

Morning Session: ONLY STRENGTH AND CONDITIONING.  Not weights, but plyometrics, kettle bells, ropes. 1-1.5 hours.

Sunday off.

Basically, this schedule would run for 6 weeks.  For the last two weeks, you would taper everything off as the fight approaches, and forgo sparring entirely.  He also advised me to eat clean.  Then again, you should be doing that anyway.  Right?  The lack of weights for strength training surprised me.  He’s a big advocate of circuit training for strength, so again, consult with your doctor or trainer.

Yeah, I try to eat food that either flies or swims.” Coach Shannon

So there you have it.  Now…I’m gonna try to give this workout a go!

I’d like to give a shoutout to my homies and the staff at The Boxing Club in La Jolla.  You guys rock.  If you’re interested in joining, give them a look!

The Boxing Club
8650 Genesee Avenue, San Diego 92122
(858) 622-1903